It has been a very long time since I have been on the board. My mother is at the end of stage 7 so I really didn't have any questions except for when I could expect the end. However, I knew that was a difficult question at best.
My problem now is with my father-in-law. He is 81 and has heart problems amoung other things. He had two heart attacks which the hospital brought him back from. We believe this has caused a serious deteriation of his mental capacity and is now suffering from mid stage dementia. We took out his hand guns he had because we were worried about the delusions. He was always looking for them. This was a month ago and he still fusses about getting them back.
He has become severly verbally abrusive to my mother-in-law, his sleep patterns are a mess, he can get dilutional, and is very needy and possessive of her time. She on the other hand is 77 years old with heart problems and getting ready to have a breast removed because of cancer. She is totally worn out and she and the rest of us know that she just can't go on anymore caring for him. We have tried a routine of arecept, zynix (sp), sleeping pills, ativan, etc without any good results. We even tried seroquel but that was a mistake.
We don't know what to do at this point. The entire family unfortunatrely feels that he needs to be in a nursing home where he would be under proper care. He totally flips out at the mention of it accusing us all of trying to tell prople he is crazy and will not go. Our primary care doc is not much help either.
What do we do. No one else in the family is set up to handle him and we really fear for my MIL's life and well being.
Thanks,
Randy
