Hello my name is Jay, My mom has been diagnosed with AD, just found out about three months ago and I had her move up by me. She lives in a senior housing. he finances were a mess, now that I have straitened them out ( we deal cash only ) I have been giving her an allowance weekly. Now she wants the full amount reassuring me that she can handle it...with no checking account she is in no danger of Overdrafting, but I a worried that the money will quickly be gone, how do I approach this? Thanks in advance!

Jay

Just tell her that the money you are giving her is all that is left after you paid the bills. At this point she won't know the difference will she?
Hugs,
Mariellen

As a nurse said to me, "Sometimes you have to be the bad guy."

Sooner or later you will have to get tough about something. You're going to be criticized, but there is no way around it.

I struggled for two years getting the finances away from my mother. Periodically she would break down and ask me to handle them, but as soon as I had them in order she wanted them back. Eventually, she realized she couldn't handle it and turned them over to me.

If your mother is already messing up her finances, it is probably time to "be the bad guy" and say no.

Your handling the finances and giving her an allowances seems ideal. It was a commendable solution.

You might also try a line such as - "The rich have "people" to take care of these things" or "Mom, you've done so much for me, let me do this for you. It's just one little way I can thank you."