ProHealth health Vitamin and Natural Supplement Store and Health
Home  |  Log In  |  My Account  |  View Cart  View Your ProHealth Vitamin and Supplement Shopping Cart
800-366-6056  |  Contact Us  |  Help
Facebook Google Plus
Fibromyalgia  Chronic Fatigue Syndrome & M.E.  Lyme Disease  Natural Wellness  Supplement News  Forums  Our Story
Store     Brands   |   A-Z Index   |   Best Sellers   |   New Products   |   Deals & Specials   |   Under $10   |   SmartSavings Club

Trending News

Is a Good Night's Sleep at the Top of Your Wishlist?

Ashwagandha Helps Hormones - Aids Arthritis

Why You Should Be Eating More Porcini Mushrooms

A Breathalyzer for Disease?

How Bacopa Can Help Improve Your Cognitive Function

Magnesium Reduces Diabetes and Helps Keep You Young

Lavender Aromatherapy Can Ease Pre-Op Anxiety

Give Your Health a Much-Needed Boost With Geranium

The Role of Resveratrol in Achieving Optimal Health

Could Coconut Oil Help Reduce Antibiotics?

Print Page
Email Article

Cultivating Self-Compassion

  [ 14 votes ]   [ 1 Comment ]
By Julie Holliday • • March 31, 2015

Cultivating Self-Compassion
Living with ME/CFS, Fibromyalgia or any chronic illness isn’t easy. We wouldn’t want others to suffer in the ways that we do, nevertheless, we often give ourselves a hard time about it. Sometimes we will push ourselves too hard or depreciate ourselves for experiencing difficult feelings and make life even more difficult and uncomfortable.

Being kind to ourselves can make a big difference to our wellbeing but often it’s a skill that we need to develop. If we knew that a loved one was going through what we go through, we would want to comfort them and care for them as well as we could. If we could show ourselves that same compassion, acceptance and understanding we could really improve our quality of life. And when we learn how to give it to ourselves, it’s on tap whenever we need it!

Self-compassion is first and foremost a choice, but it’s also a skill that may need some practise. I choose to believe that each and every one of us are worthy of kindness and caring. And that means me, too. If I’m not worthy of compassion that means that other people might not be and that’s just not acceptable to me. The part of me that wants to find unconditional love for all others won’t allow me to be the exception. So if you’re struggling to find yourself worthy of your own compassion maybe you could contemplate the value of unconditional love for all, and include yourself in that “all.”

Another technique you might like to try is to start by developing a sense of compassion for yourself as a child. Connect with a time during your childhood when you know that you deserved to be loved and cared for. Imagine caring for “you as a child” and get in touch with what that caring feels like. Recognise how the essence of “you as a child” is still what makes you “you today.” How does caring for yourself as a child make you feel in this moment? Wouldn’t you like to feel that about yourself now? Remind yourself that you can choose to.

Once you have made the choice to offer yourself compassion it’s just a matter of practice. Simply imagine how you would want to care for a loved one going through the same things that you are, and then choose to offer those same feelings of loving kindness towards yourself. Some people find it helpful to look in the mirror when doing this. If at first self-compassion doesn’t come naturally, just try acting it. The results are likely to make you want to do it more. Simply acting in a kind and compassionate way feels good!

In my experience life becomes softer and more comfortable with self-compassion. I’m less likely to get stuck with negative feelings. When I compassionately accept myself, I can allow them to flow. With self-compassion I take better care of myself because I don’t push myself or force myself to do things that are beyond me. When I’m willing to take care of myself, it’s easier for others to help take care of me, too. I don’t get so needy and it’s easier to be less demanding. With self-compassion I can chose to take a positive attitude when it’s what I need to do, but it’s also safe for me to express my difficult feelings when they are the reality of my experience of the moment.

Could you be kinder and more compassionate to yourself?


About the Author: Julie Holliday is a holistic life coach and writer committed to helping people overcome their challenges and live a great life despite chronic illness. Writing as the ME/CFS Self-Help Guru, Julie shares tips on her weekly blog. You can also follow her on Twitter, Facebook and Google+.  To find out if Julie’s coaching could help you live a great life despite chronic illness, book your FREE introductory consultation here. (10 available each month).

Post a Comment

Featured Products From the ProHealth Store
Ultra ATP+, Double Strength Vitamin D3 Extreme™ Mitochondria Ignite™ with NT Factor®

Article Comments Post a Comment

Love thyself FIRST!
Posted by: GeekyGranny
Apr 3, 2015
Once you love yourself, then you have compassion for yourself and others as well. When you are a person of love, it flows out from you to all those entities around you.

Realize you belong to an amazing group of entities. You are powerful and wonderful. Once you see how amazing you are, you share that love with all without judgement.

We are all one.

Reply Reply
Optimized Curcumin Longvida with Omega-3

Featured Products

Optimized Curcumin Longvida® Optimized Curcumin Longvida®
Supports Cognition, Memory & Overall Health
Vitamin D3 Extreme™ Vitamin D3 Extreme™
50,000 IU Vitamin D3 - Prescription Strength
Mitochondria Ignite™ with NT Factor® Mitochondria Ignite™ with NT Factor®
Reduce Fatigue up to 45%
Energy NADH™ 12.5mg Energy NADH™ 12.5mg
Improve Energy & Cognitive Function
FibroSleep™ FibroSleep™
The All-in-One Natural Sleep Aid

Natural Remedies

Itching to Find Dry Skin Relief? Itching to Find Dry Skin Relief?
Research Links Green Tea to Weight Loss Research Links Green Tea to Weight Loss
Why Berries Offer a Rainbow of Health Benefits Why Berries Offer a Rainbow of Health Benefits
How One Tiny Molecule Turned into One Huge Health Breakthrough How One Tiny Molecule Turned into One Huge Health Breakthrough
Help for Soreness and Swelling: What Do Silkworms Have to Do With It? Help for Soreness and Swelling: What Do Silkworms Have to Do With It?

ProHealth, Inc.
555 Maple Ave
Carpinteria, CA 93013
(800) 366-6056  |  Email

· Become a Wholesaler
· Vendor Inquiries
· Affiliate Program
Credit Card Processing
Get the latest news about Fibromyalgia, M.E/Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, Lyme Disease and Natural Wellness

CONNECT WITH US ProHealth on Facebook  ProHealth on Twitter  ProHealth on Pinterest  ProHealth on Google Plus

© 2017 ProHealth, Inc. All rights reserved. Pain Tracker App  |  Store  |  Customer Service  |  Guarantee  |  Privacy  |  Contact Us  |  Library  |  RSS  |  Site Map