Nichole,
I am so sorry that you are going through this. I am 47 and have also had a summer of surgeries this past summer - first an emergency appendectomy followed by 2 abdominal accesses which is rare - 1 is not so unusual but 2 is. My incision had some complications healing and we had to pack a seroma (serus fluid pocket - yuck) so it would stay open and heal from the inside out. ANyhow it's 6 weeks out now and I think it is healed - whew. I had thought the problem was based in the meds I was on but now am coming to the conclusion that it is mainly due to the disease of Lupus/RA and of course the meds didn't help with the infections. So, the good news is A. your not alone in a wound that has a hard time healing and B. Mind finally did heal.
Hang in there -
Jenna