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Beginning Again: Living with the Ups and Downs of Life with Chronic Illness

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By Katarina Zulak • www.ProHealth.com • November 27, 2016


Beginning Again: Living with the Ups and Downs of Life with Chronic Illness
By Katarina Zulak

I'm sitting here at home, in the middle of the afternoon, still in my pyjamas. All I have accomplished today is breakfast and coffee. Over the past, week my schedule has gone completely off-track. It started with a significant increase in my endometriosis pain, then worsening insomnia/daytime fatigue, and finally, my neck and upper back decided to get in on the fun by seizing up. This runaway train was accelerated by lack of exercise, increased anxiety and cabin fever. Staying up late to watch the American election didn't help either!

Watching my goals, plans, and self-care routines careen out of control is sometimes harder for me to accept than the symptoms that come with a flare-up. Maybe it's because I have always been a control freak, but the sense of helplessness, frustration and self-doubt that accompanies this situation is one of the most difficult aspects of living with fibromyalgia for me. This time, as I was venting about how it felt like my daily life had come tumbling down like a house of cards, a question occurred to me: What if the problem isn't a failure to control or manage my schedule during a flare-up, but a failure to understand that living with chronic illness inevitably involves ups and downs?

My practice of mindfulness meditation has helped me find answers to this question. Renowned mindfulness teacher Sharon Salzberg writes that, in contrast to our conditioned belief that self-blame and fear of failure help us succeed, "ease in letting go and kindness in starting over is a lot more effective."(1)

Repeatedly focusing on negative self-judgment and regret is draining, discouraging and ultimately unsustainable. Meditation can help us practice being compassionate and non-judgemental towards ourselves, helping us to let go and begin again when things don't go our way. During meditation, the aim is to focus our attention in the present moment, by concentrating on breathing, scanning the body, or repeating a mantra. Inevitably, we lose focus and become distracted by thoughts, worries, plans or emotions. When we realize this has happened, we gently bring our awareness back to the present moment – this breath, this step, this repetition.

The moment we realize our mind has wandered is the crucial moment of the practice. We have a choice: do we berate ourselves for 'failing' and force our attention back to the task at hand? Or do we react with kindness towards ourselves and patiently return our attention to the present moment? Salzberg explains, "The invitation to begin again (and again and again) that meditation affords is an invitation to the practice of self-compassion – to heal through letting go rather than harming ourselves with cycles of self-doubt, judgment, and criticism."

From this point of view, meditation is like a playing field where I can train for how to cope with the ups and downs of life with chronic illness. I have realized that I can't control these fluctuations, but I can change how I relate to them. Instead of reacting with self-recrimination and a sense of helplessness, I can respond with compassion and focus my attention on beginning again in this moment.

There is something incredibly hopeful about knowing that "Always, we begin again," as St. Benedict wrote. It can also be daunting to think that you will have to begin again...and again...and again. Recently, I was introduced to the concept of tapas in yoga philosophy. The word is derived from the Sanskrit verb "to burn" and is often translated as "fiery discipline."(2) In the modern era, this might be better translated as showing up, day after day, to pursue your self-care goals.

In the context of yoga:

...it’s the self-discipline to simply get yourself onto the mat and see where the practice takes you, even if that’s to a few quiet restorative poses. It’s the effort involved in getting onto the meditation cushion when you’d rather be glued to your iPad. It’s the focus that’s required to remain centered with your breath and stay with whatever arises.(3)

Nobody other than those who live with chronic illness can understand the degree of strength it takes to wake up and try again in the face of all our daily challenges. We are experts in tapas without even knowing it! I believe that we should direct the ‘fiery discipline’ that living with chronic illness cultivates in us towards starting over in each moment – instead of cracking the whip and pushing ourselves harder. If we are fiercely dedicated to beginning anew after each setback, then we can change our relationship to the difficult experiences we encounter. Instead of feeling like a flare up is a catastrophe, I am confident in my intention to start over, once my flare abates.

For me, the unpredictability of living with fibromyalgia is one of the hardest parts. Life with chronic illness is an extreme form of constant uncertainty. As people, we tend to prefer stability to uncertainty. Pema Chodron, a Buddhist nun and author, calls this the "fundamental ambiguity of being human" – the longing for predictability and permanence despite the reality that life means constant change.(4) Chodron argues that resisting this reality leads to suffering and accepting it means freedom. Opening ourselves to the dynamic, changing nature of our experiences releases us from expectations that things should be this way or that way.

For example, if we see our emotions as being like the weather, we realize that even the worst storms pass away. When we try to run away from difficult feelings or hold on to pleasant feelings, we only create more challenges for ourselves. I feel a sense of freedom by accepting that living with chronic illness means inevitably fluctuating between better and worse days. Struggling against this by trying to control for every potential outcome is exhausting. Blaming myself for failing after every flare is depressing. This doesn't mean practicing self-care or pacing is pointless! It just means that I accept that I can't control every situation and I am not responsible for every setback.

Here is my new intention. Tomorrow, or the next day, or in a few weeks, I'll have another flare up. I will try to understand this as part of the natural cycle of living with my illness. I will be compassionate towards myself when my schedule goes off track. I will focus my attention on the present moment and the next best thing I can do for myself. I will draw on the tapas that I have cultivated for strength. And I will begin again.

References:

1. Salzberg, S. (2015). The fractal moment: An invitation to begin again. On Being. Retrieved Nov 10, 2016 from http://www.onbeing.org/blog/the-fractal-moment-an-invitation-to-begin-again/7589

2. Lasater, J. (2007, Aug. 28). Cultivate your connections. Yoga Journal. Retrieved Nov 10, 2016 from http://www.yogajournal.com/article/philosophy/cultivate-your-connections/

3. Malossi, C. (n.d.). The third Niyama: Tapas-inner fire. Yoga U. Retrieved Nov 10, 2016 from https://www.yogauonline.com/yogau-wellness-blog/third-niyama-tapas-inner-fire

4. Chodron, P. (2012). The fundamental ambiguity of being human. Tricycle Magazine. Retrieved Nov 10, 2016 from http://tricycle.org/magazine/fundamental-ambiguity-being-human/
 


Katarina Zulak is a health coach and ePatient blogger. Five years ago she was diagnosed with fibromyalgia. On her health journey, Katarina has learned about the power of self-care skills to improve her health and well-being. She obtained her health coach certification from the Sears Wellness Institute as a way to channel her passion for partnering with others working to improve their wellness. On her blog, Skillfully Well & Painfully Aware, she writes about learning to be skillfully well, even when living with a chronic condition. Katarina lives in Toronto, Canada with her husband and their cat Lily. She loves learning, reading, being outside, Netflix, calligraphy and coffee!

Blog: http://skillfulllywell.com
Twitter: @akatarinaz
Facebook Page:@akatarinaz (https://www.facebook.com/akatarinaz/)



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Kind to myself, but need to keep going
Posted by: Schnitzel
Nov 30, 2016
Excellent article. But my problem is that I am a mother, with no family support. There are no sick days for motherhood. I have to push myself through my exhaustion and pain to care for my kids. It's SO hard. So unhealthy. Yes, I try to just do the basics, but it can be too much. Try not reproaching yourself for barely functioning as a mother if your child is sick too.
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