Reprinted from LivingGraceBlog.com with the kind permission of Kami Lingren. To read the original article, click here.
When I was about four years old I was playing in my Grandma’s closet one day when my younger brother shut the door on me. I remember how quickly my young little mind translated the door being shut as I’M LIVING HERE FOREVER.
I didn’t, of course, live in that closet longer than a mere 10 minutes. But in the moment I was gripped with fear that what was really just a funny little adventure for my brother meant something far more drastic.
For years after, the idea of being enclosed in a small space terrified me. And I wouldn’t dream of stepping inside a closet because my little mind believed the door would always close. All because it had happened…you know, that one time.
And while I’d love to laugh this off with an “I’ve grown past this”, which holds truth, there’s more to the story. Because can still find my relationship with fear to be as consuming as it was that day in my childhood closet.
So today I’m coming out of the closet (see what I did there?) and sharing some of the ways I’ve been intentionally changing my relationship with fear. Because at the end of the day, why would we ever want to live a life ruled by fear?
And yet it happens. To most of us. Just tell me if any of this sounds familiar to you, too…
We hesitate to move, we resist change, decide against that bold step out into the unknown all because the F-word grips us with it’s manipulative whispers.
“You aren’t strong enough.”
“You aren’t talented enough.”
“You’ll do it WRONG.”
“People won’t want to hear what you have to say.”
Sometimes the whispers are born out of an experience we’ve had that leads us to believe THAT EVERY SIMILAR CIRCUMSTANCE WILL BE THE SAME. If I got hurt once trying this, why the hell would I do it again? If I couldn’t do it three years ago, why would I trust I could do it today?
In other moments we find ourselves justifying our way out of something because we believe the fear is there as some sort of indication that danger lies ahead. Our primal instinct, instead of questioned, is responded to with fight or flight. But fear told us to. So it’s okay, right?
But the beautiful truth I’m hoping to share with you and me is this: we can CHANGE our RELATIONSHIP with FEAR.
We can take the reigns back, release the haze of the fear clouds, and embrace truth. And today I’m gonna tell you about 3 REAL ways I’m shifting my conversation with fear. Because I believe it can help you, too!
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Kami is a writer and dreamer living and healing in the beautiful valley of southern Oregon. When she's not writing you'll probably find her snapping dozens of pictures of clouds and her pup, wearing leggings and watching yet-another-episode of Friends. On her blog she shares her journey of self-care, healing from Lyme, and finding joy in both the simple and grand gems of life.