Commanding Language, Conquering Dialogue: Perceptions and Pain

Reprinted with the kind permission of Celeste Cooper.
The words we speak to ourselves have a commanding impact on our emotions and even our physical pain. What I call power words can improve our self-talk when we use them to conquer the dialogue we associate with our pain.

The Impact of Words
Feelings that destroy our inner language when used with I AM:

  • worried
  • apprehensive
  • guilty
  • fearful 

Action words that improve self-reflection when used with I AM:

  • overjoyed
  • decisive
  • peaceful
  • devoted 

[Excerpt] Cooper, C and Miller, J. Broken Body Wounded Spirit: Balancing the See-Saw of Chronic Pain, Summer Devotions edition, The Power of Language.
Speaking Affirmatively
Writing affirmations is a powerful coping strategy that improves our self-dialogue. These authoritative sentences reflect a positive goal or characteristic. They can be short or long, but the shorter they are, the more likely we are to remember them. A good example is:

I can…         I try…           I will…

You can read more about what affirmations do for us, examples of affirmations, and clues for writing your own affirmations on my website at “Writing Affirmatively.”
What power words do you use to improve your self-talk? Grab a pencil and paper and write down three of your favorites. Carry them with you and refer to them when you find yourself slipping off the wagon.
Lately, I have been personally put to the test of my own advice; my top three power words today are…



“I will keep my mind’s inbox devoid of energy-draining
thoughts by replacing them with affirmations.”
~Celeste Cooper, Day Forty
Summer Devotions

Other Reading:
Getting Physical with Our Body Talk
Inspiration for Reclaiming Control over Pain and Illness
Partners, Friendships, Chronic Pain and Illness
In healing, Celeste

"Adversity is only an obstacle if we fail to see opportunity."


Celeste Cooper, RN, is a frequent contributor to ProHealth.  She is an advocate, writer and published author, and a person living with chronic pain. Celeste is lead author of Integrative Therapies for Fibromyalgia, Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, and Myofascial Pain and Broken Body, Wounded Spirit, and Balancing the See Saw of Chronic Pain (a four book series). She spends her time enjoying her family and the rewards she receives from interacting with nature through her writing and photography. You can learn more about Celeste’s writing, advocacy work, helpful tips, and social network connections at

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