[One of more than 100 posts in the ME/CFS/FM Message String “Tips for Managing Daily Life”]
There are a few things that I strive for – mainly to feel ‘normal’ and purposeful.
Laughter is so important. When I’m not in severe pain, I try to keep my sense of humor and joke around as much as possible. It’s amazing what it can do for one’s mood.
Another thing I try to do is do something for others. Generally it’s a supportive phone call or email. Just letting someone know you care about them can make a huge difference in YOUR life knowing the effect it has on theirs.
Guilt has always been a big problem for me – so I’m always working on letting go of that.
I listen to my body (or try to). If I don’t have to be at work, I lie down and make sure my body gets rest. I say no to people and don’t overextend myself.
Little tips – I keep a toothbrush and toothpaste in my powder room which is on the main level (bedroom is upstairs). I also keep a notepad and pen on my coffee table by my laptop so I can write myself notes all day if I need to.
Finally, it took years to develop the habit of choosing my attitude. It’s been VERY hard to hold onto that, but when I can, I try. Sometimes my pain is at an intolerable level so it’s almost impossible, but on other days, I try to remember the simplest of things that bring me joy and happiness and choose to be happy for that moment at least.
Smile. When possible – at work, around my kids and my husband (again if not in severe pain) smiling can change your world. I need to do more of it, that’s for sure. Look in the mirror sometime. That’s what made me decide. The look on my face normally looks terrible. I look miserable all the time. I don’t like it. That is one thing I have control over. – J