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The Art of Resting

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By Julie Holliday

Resting plays such an important role in our wellness, but it’s not something that necessarily comes easily to a lot of people. It wasn’t until I was struck with a chronic illness that I realized I just didn’t know how to rest. Before that, the thought of a beach holiday horrified me unless I could play games constantly or swim. Read a book while lying on a sun lounger? I don’t think so!

At the beginning of the illness when I was very sick, I had to rest because I simply couldn’t do anything else. As I started to improve slightly, resting became a chore, and most of the time I was approaching it as something I had to do. Unfortunately, that attitude towards rest doesn’t make it very restful.

Eventually, I realized that if I got better at resting, I might just benefit, I might find a little more energy for other things. As I’ve always been a person who rises to a challenge, I set myself the challenge of learning how to rest well.

Recognizing rest as a crucial strategy

One of the first things that helped me was realizing that rest is not a passive thing. It’s one of the most important ways you can contribute to your wellbeing. Getting good at resting is a way you can take some control. Resting has a very important purpose. It seems obvious to me to write that now, but that little gem of insight took a while to come to me. Once I could really value its role in my wellbeing, it became much easier to rest well. It helps to keep reminding myself of its importance – every time I take a rest.

Rest isn’t waiting

Even now, many, many years after teaching myself the art of resting, I still sometimes find myself resting with an attitude of waiting. When you really want to be doing and enjoying things, rest can seem like a necessary evil. Something to get through while you wait for what it is you want to be doing. But waiting – and wishing – isn’t truly restful. When you’re waiting, it’s hard to switch off and calm down. Your mind stays busy, often planning whatever it is you might be waiting to do or resenting not being able to do it now. Helpful rest comes from letting go completely of any need, want or desire to be doing.

Knowing the difference between quality rest and low energy activity

Another thing that took me a while to discover is that not all rest is quality rest. Some rest, like reading a book or watching a movie, is really just low energy activity. There is a place for low energy activity in energy management; it helps us not to spend too much energy. We may need it (especially with a chronic illness) so that we have enough to spend on other things throughout the day. But low energy activity doesn’t provide the same value to our wellbeing as quality rest. The key to improving your wellbeing through good energy management is to have a planned routine that includes both low energy activity and quality rest.

Quality rest

Quality rest involves really relaxing and entering into a state of peace. It usually happens only when you can let yourself be present in the moment. For some, that can come from listening to some calming music or lying in the sunshine listening to the birds singing. Others might need to lie in a dark, quiet room or be guided through a meditation or relaxation exercise.  This kind of quality rest can be quite challenging to do for long periods of time because our minds can get busy and take us away from “being in the moment.” It can also be a challenge to enter into that state in the first place, if stress or a chronic illness has left you with a ramped up nervous system.

Calming distraction

I’ve found that in order to enter into a state of quality rest, I might first spend some time distracting myself in a way that allows my body to calm down. I need something to engage my mind enough to stop it racing everywhere, something that’s calming and gentle. Doing an easy Sudoku deliberately slowly or doing some coloring can work quite well for me as a prequel for quality rest. It’s much easier to relax and be peaceful if I can get my nervous system to stand down first. When I’m really struggling to bring down my nervous system, my most effective tool to engage my mind and calm me down is Yoga Nidra.

Napping

A short nap can be a helpful way of getting quality rest. If your body needs it, it can be easier to achieve than other forms of quality rest. Many people who struggle to sleep at night find themselves worrying about how napping might make night-time sleep more difficult. I’ve learned that napping is important if not napping would lead to me pushing myself. When I do take a nap, I set an alarm for 40 minutes.

Training your quality rest skills

Being able to relax in a peaceful state when you need to can take some training. It can be hard to learn to let go, and all new skills take conscious practice before they become unconscious. Conscious practice needs energy and is hard when you’re most in need of quality rest. It’s a great idea to practice these skills when you’re feeling most alert. Because of all the practice I’ve had with guided meditations and relaxation practices, I can now enter into that peaceful state quite easily, even when I’m tired.

Bringing down stimulation and stimulation breaks

Quality rest doesn’t have to be for long periods of time. In fact, unless you actually fall asleep, it can be difficult to stay present and in a state of peaceful relaxation for long, especially without having your attention gently guided.

Really short, regular periods of quality rest, as little as 1-5 minutes, can be very effective at keeping the nervous system under control, making it much easier to relax when you want a longer rest. In addition, if you keep yourself from becoming too over-stimulated, you’re likely to be able to stay more relaxed while you’re doing things, which will use your energy more efficiently.

I’ve found that to be really effective, my short breaks need to be away from all stimulation. I seek out a quiet, dark room. Dark glasses and noise cancelling earplugs are great when that’s just not possible.

My most effective longer quality rests are also in a quiet, dark room. Minimizing stimulation can help you reach that state of peace a lot easier, especially when your resources are particularly low.

Knowing when to stop

Another part of the art of resting involves stopping and resting before you get too tired. If you push to complete something before you rest, it’s likely that it will be a lot harder to relax and let go. Getting really good at resting involves developing an awareness of the effort involved in what you’re doing and stopping to rest when you notice that effort is increasing.

Taking a moment to enjoy and appreciate rest

The final ingredient to really turning resting into an art form is to choose to enjoy and appreciate it in the moment that you’re doing it. Sometimes positive mental commentary helps me get into that state. I remind myself how nice it is to be resting in the way I am. When I’m reading my relaxing novels, I take a moment to appreciate the entertainment I’m enjoying; I take a breath and relax into that enjoyment. If I’m doing a guided meditation or relaxation, I tend to wait until the end and point out to myself how good it feels to be relaxed in this moment and how wonderful that must be for my wellbeing.

Summary

The art of resting involves managing your energy well with a planned combination of low energy activity and quality rest. It involves knowing when to stop and keeping stimulation down with regular stimulation breaks. But most of all, it means valuing the role rest plays in your wellbeing, giving up the need to be doing or waiting to do, and becoming present to the enjoyment you can find in that rest.


Julie Holliday is a holistic life coach and writer committed to helping people take back control from energy-limiting chronic illness to create a life that they love. Julie loves spending time in nature, growing her own vegetables and spends as much of her day as possible in comfortable loungewear.

Writing as the ME/CFS Self-Help Guru, Julie shares tips on her weekly blog. You can also follow her on TwitterPinterest and Facebook. Or join her Facebook group Spoonies with Purpose: Making the World a Better Place.

 

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