Susan Milstrey Wells writes in her book “A Delicate Balance: Living Successfully with Chronic Illness,” that although “it may seem paradoxical to suggest that learning how to relax takes work, that is exactly the case. As I learned with biofeedback, we must practice relaxation techniques regularly to achieve their full benefit. Many of these methods are fairly easy to learn, and with the exception of biofeedback, they require little more than an investment of time.
Books on the use of meditation and imagery are available in the health section of bookstores. Your doctor or therapist may be able to refer you to, or even offer, biofeedback sessions. Yoga centers, massage clinics, and even some HMOs offer stress management courses that feature many relaxation techniques.”
(Source: A Delicate Balance: Living Successfully with Chronic Illness, by Susan Milstrey Wells.)