By Julie Holliday
I see myself as a person who has always had a bad memory for people and events. I can rarely remember specifics of anything – just vague overall impressions. I recently read about some studies about overgeneralised memory which made a lot of sense to my experience.(1)
Under certain conditions, retrieval of memory stops at a general level and doesn’t progress to the specifics of an event. One of those circumstances is exhaustion. It seems that when we are tired we are less likely to expend our energy on finding the specifics of our memories. With over 13 years of ME/CFS under my belt, no wonder I see myself as having a bad memory!
Unfortunately more research discovered that people who tend to retrieve their memories in this less specific way tend to have more difficulty letting go of the past and getting over things that go wrong.(2) Negative memories, which are only remembered generally and without detail, tend to contribute to a more general negative outlook. So as people with chronic illness such as ME/CFS, fibromyalgia and Lyme disease, not only do we have less energy to recall the specifics of our memories, but accessing them in this general way can leave us with inadequate resources for letting go and moving on when things go wrong. Instead we accumulate evidence that the world is to be seen in negative terms. That’s a double whammy of disability to overcome!
So how can we get over the impact that lack of energy has on our memories?
Photos and videos can be a great way to keep memories alive. Photography can be a pretty low-energy hobby, too, as long as you don’t get into expensive heavy cameras with an entourage of different lenses and filters to cart around all the time. Remember though, that taking photos to help with your memories isn’t always about the best composition or creating a piece of art. Remind yourself what it is about – a particular scene or event that you want to capture for your memory. It may be that during a joyous moment of a family gathering, people aren’t lined up in a way that creates a perfect picture, but the picture could still capture the smiles and laughter that will remind you of that joy when you see it.
Videos can be useful even if you can’t attend events that are important to your nearest and dearest. Make a date to be the first to watch the video with them; let the premiere viewing be an event in itself – something that your loved one can share with you! That way you’ll have a positive memory of sharing something important rather than a negative memory of not being well enough to attend the event in person! And every time you watch the video later, you can choose to remember those moments of sharing!
Journaling is another way of recording your memories. One way to tackle negatively biased perception that can result from overgeneralised memory is to make a point of recording the happy details. Each day record three happy moments or things to be grateful for, no matter what else you need to journal about. Then when you look back on times that weren’t great you’ll be able to see that they weren’t all bad either.
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Another strategy is the achievements jar. Each week you could write a list of all your achievements, and place the list in a jar to be accessed at the end of the year, or any time when you’re looking back with only an overgeneralised sense that things didn’t go well. If you find it difficult to remember achievements at the end of the week, have another jar to write them daily and at the end of each week take them out and write the best of them on your weekly list!
In another study, the researchers above found that practicing mindfulness helps make memories more specific and less general.(3) Mindfulness is all about becoming more aware of the present moment, cultivating acceptance and becoming more skilful at taking control over spiralling thought patterns. It makes sense that the resulting peace leaves our minds with more energy to remember the specifics!
Mindfulness can also help us avoid turning any overgeneralised memories into a general negative outlook. With awareness, we can chose not to give those memories too much power by remembering that they are vague and involve an emotional bias. Without the specifics of the memory, we can’t re-evaluate and learn from it. Instead, it’s just better to put it behind us and let it go!
To learn more about mindfulness, see “Mindfulness: A Simple and Powerful Tool for Change”
1. Mindfulness: A practical guide to finding peace in a frantic world. Mark Williams and Danny Penman (2011) Piatkus (chapter 10)
2. “Autobiographical memory specificity and emotional disorder.” Williams J. M.; Barnhofer T; Crane C; Herman D; Raes F; Watkins E, Dalgleish T; Psychological Bulletin, Vol 133(1), Jan 2007, 122-148.
3. “Mindfulness-based cognitive therapy reduces overgeneral autobiographical memory in formerly depressed patients.” Williams J.M., Teasdale J.D., Segal Z.V., Soulsby J. J; Abnorm Psychol. 2000 Feb;109(1):150-5.
Julie Holliday, ProHealth’s Inspirational Editor, is a holistic life coach and writer committed to helping people overcome their challenges and live a great life despite chronic illness. Writing as the ME/CFS Self-Help Guru, Julie shares tips on her weekly blog. You can also follow her on Twitter, Facebook and Google+. To find out if Julie’s coaching could help you live a great life despite chronic illness, book your FREE introductory consultation here. (10 available each month).